Okay, so you’ve been out on that group date. Or perhaps your crush said “no” to going out. Whatever the case, your crush made it somewhat clear that he or she’s not all that into you.
Rejection from your crush can be tough and heartbreaking. But you can take pride in the fact that you dared to try. Otherwise, you’d never know.
Instead, you can turn your attention to other matters, or even other people – though this may be easier said than done.
Here are some things you can do to get back on your feet:
- Go easy on yourself. What happened doesn’t mean you’re a failure, and it’s not your fault if it’s not meant to be. You can’t change your crush’s feelings. What you can change is how you choose to feel about the matter. Choose to be positive and choose to see the bright side of things.
- Don’t be embarrassed about it. You don’t need to feel like you’ve lost face. In fact, he or she may even be flattered by your invitation for a date! At the very least, you know that both of you aren’t going to be able to build a strong relationship, so focus on the relationships that do matter.
- Keep your mind busy. It’s tough to keep your crush out of your mind at first, so stay busy by doing things you usually enjoy. Spend time having a laugh in the company of friends, or try out new activities that you’ve always wanted to do.
- Let it all out. Don’t keep your feelings all bottled up. Talk to a friend you trust if the rejection is affecting you badly. Have a good cry among people who care about you (that’s what they’re there for!)
- Give yourself some time. You’re not going to feel better instantly (if you do, well, more power to you). Give yourself the space to heal and make sense of what happened and you’ll see that the situation isn’t all that bad after all. In time, you’ll meet new people and experience new things that will change your perspective of life.
The emotional journey you’ve been through – a rollercoaster filled with highs and lows – happens to the best of us. What matters is that we discover more about ourselves, and as we do so, perhaps we’ll find the right person to cherish special moments with!
